At the core what we really want is to love and to be loved. This requires openness and vulnerability. Love will not be able to find it’s way in or out through multiple layers of defense. We keep up defense because it’s safer. We don’t have to face ourselves, we don’t have to open up to the risk of rejection. However what we are really doing is keeping ourselves away from love.
Vulnerability is also about the ability to move beyond ego. It requires a willingness to see our unhelpful behavior patterns or to acknowledge our issues. Watch this short video from a mindfulness class.