Love that is not conditional, is what heals
As children we were often taught that it was OK to love and accept ourselves only when we had manged to ‘do it right’.The opposite is true. Loving yourself right now with all the issues and mistakes included, is what will enable you to change.While you are in a space of judgment it is hard to do anything.
As we become more present, we recognise presence is unconditonal acceptance.
Spend some time being present just with your breath, letting go of mental judgment.In that space when we are present there is no judgement ever.Does that tell you something? The more time we spend present the more we naturally start to become accepting.This is because that space of presence is by nature accepting.Every one of you has had moments of consciousness, As this increases we come to understand that the nature of soul or consciousness is absolute acceptance and love.Mistakes or issues make no difference at all to the state of pure acceptance that presence is.
Depression and anxiety are always states of high self judgment. When we are meditating and there is less thought, there is also less judgment. The more we work on presence the more we start to accept ourselves . It is an acceptance that is not dependent on achieving or changing. It is just there. This is the key to healing.