Guilt can be unwholesome in relationships

An overdeveloped sense of guilt can make us ignore our inner truth .


If we are regularly acting from guilt, inevitably we are not listening truly to what our body is telling us. In a relationship this means that we may not be honoring our core needs. Also, we may not be speaking a truth that needs to be told to the other. Resulting in a build up feelings like overwhelm, exhaustion,anger and resentment towards that person.
This is not their fault, it is our responsibility to act from our truth.I often see clients for psychotherapy who are living many of their relationships from guilt, creating anxiety or depression.
If we act from guilt this also can keep the other stuck in unhelpful behavior patterns. We are not giving them the opportunity to see the truth, something that would be very helpful for them.If you really look at any relationship where you are acting from guilt, you will see how unwholesome it is for both parties.
Take responsibility , live your life honestly and be true to yourself. Real love sometimes has to be very firm, in a compassionate manner.