“Whatever we accept we move beyond. Whatever we resist we are stuck with”. Eckhart Tolle
Most of us want to be rid of our challenging emotions like fear,pain,shame,anger,frustration or cynicism.
We tend to deal with challenging emotion in unhealthy ways listed below.
- We want to resist them and judge ourselves for having them,
- We try to suppress them which can makes us sick physically or mentally.
- We project them onto others mostly without any idea we are doing it.
- Or possibly we may overly ruminate, sometimes feeling a little victimized that they are occurring.
None of these options will help, in fact all serve to keep our challenging emotions stuck.
We need to truly and compassionately meet our emotion
The way beyond these emotions is to truly and compassionately meet them. Our inner being needs to be loved, accepted, heard and understood or it will not want to move on.
How to practically witness emotion
At a practical level we can do this by starting with some breathing and sink into being present with the breath. Then with compassionate awareness simply witness the emotion, notice how it feels in the body, be curious about it. In other words bring presence to the emotion. Often it will start to ease.
This process may also facilitate insight coming.For example you may gain insight that the reason you have been feeling down is because you have not been true to yourself, perhaps you have been saying yes too much or not standing up for your core needs.Insight is more likely to come if we simply bring presence to the emotion, it is not about analyzing, Analysis tends to keep us stuck in thought and is less loving.